things you should not say to someone TTC

I am on a number of TTC (trying to conceive) websites and message boards. it's universal. we all hate these statements.

1 - "just r e l a x"

2 - "if you can't get pregnant you can always have one of my kids" - now imagine uncomfortable and awkward laughter. yes, your 7 year old was irritable and destructive yesterday and you are upset with him, but this is not funny.

3 - "I have a friend whose cousin's, nephew's, cleaning lady's, neighbor's dentist saw on oprah a story from CNN about a couple who adopted a child from russia and THEN the wife got pregnant naturally." if I had a dime for every time heard this story, our treatments would be paid for.